Therapy – Therapy with Vanessa Volpicelli

Slowing Down in this Fast Paced World

howard — Tue, 09 May 2017 16:44:39 +0000

22 Even in anticipation to write this post I found myself rushing, doing two things at once, and inhabiting a mental space that was focused on the future rather than the present. In some ways I can welcome and appreciate my can-do, hard working attitude, but in another respect I need to coach myself to SLOW DOWN. This can sound like the most annoying advice when you are on a deadline...

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Care less. Do more.

howard — Wed, 31 May 2017 17:40:36 +0000

“No man is an island.” I often use this quote to remind myself or others that we are all connected and that everything we do has a cause and effect. But today, I considered seeing myself as an island, just for a moment, and found a new regard for my own beliefs and a “who cares” attitude about other’s perceptions of me. This is not my way of condoning or endorsing selfish or reckless decisions...

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Write it Down

howard — Sat, 03 Jun 2017 16:49:17 +0000

No matter what is happening to you right now, best day – worst day, write it down. I can not even begin to explain the transformative effects this has had in my own life and in the lives of those I work with. Journaling is a perfect tool that mirrors my underlying philosophy about life and my work as a therapist. I truly believe that if we take the time to sit with ourselves and honor our voice...

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Relief from Overthinking

howard — Sun, 18 Jun 2017 15:28:58 +0000

How many times have you so desperately wanted to NOT be thinking about something, but there it is – looping through your mind – over and over and over and over again. It is honestly one of the worst feelings. Not only does this frustratingly feel like it only happens with our bad memories, but it also feels as if we are at the whim of whatever the mind wants to think about – forced to just sit...

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How to Use Jealousy to Our Advantage

howard — Mon, 26 Jun 2017 22:13:34 +0000

When we see that person who is driving our dream car, dating our dream person, or thriving in our dream job – we feel flushed and red inside because we fear that we will never have any of those things. Once we recognize that this is FALSE we can start to use jealousy to our advantage. Although jealousy stings, it is a true gift to see our dreams in action. It is living proof that our dream is...

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Getting Out of Your Funk

howard — Mon, 10 Jul 2017 06:32:42 +0000

“Break the illusion of dependency through the power of intention.” I turn to this quote during those times when I feel defeated, deflated, and depressed. Everyone has a way of defining that feeling you get deep in your bones, when you are heavy, can’t remember the joy in your life, can’t imagine any joy coming into your life, and are just stuck and sad. What brings us to this place is a lack of...

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Why do I need therapy?

howard — Wed, 16 Aug 2017 14:16:59 +0000

How do you know if now is the time to seek therapy? Are you… Withdrawing or socially isolating? Avoiding activities, especially ones you previously enjoyed? Easily angered or irritated by others? Experiencing sleep disturbances (sleeping too little or too much)? Worrying excessively? Using substances to help improve your mood or get through the day? Struggling to understand or manage your emotions?

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Struggling with Hypersensitivity?

howard — Tue, 07 Nov 2017 21:33:26 +0000

Struggling with hypersensitivity? I am right there with you. This has been my “flaw” ever since I can remember. I use quotes because I question if it is a flaw, recognizing that my sensitivity has allowed me a strong sense of empathy in my career as well as in my personal life. But there is also an aspect of this trait that causes a lot of pain and unnecessary inner turmoil. Below is a 5 step...

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How to Tell Someone Something Difficult

howard — Tue, 21 Nov 2017 23:12:11 +0000

You hate their hair, you need a favor, or more importantly you want to express how someone has made you feel – here is a foolproof formula for communicating successfully. First I recommend reflecting. Whatever it is that you believe you need to communicate to someone, ask yourself: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by ME? Does this need to be said by me RIGHT NOW?

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